Category Archives: Emotional Development

Managing Emotions



Managing emotions — our boys, & our own — is challenging in the best of times. This, most definitely is not the best of times. We’re cooped up in our houses with kids who miss their friends and activities. With boys who no longer have soccer or baseball practice to help them burn off some … Continue reading Managing Emotions


Helping Boys Grow Into Healthy Men (w Ted Bunch)



How can we help our boys grow into healthy men? Ted Bunch, chief development officer of A Call to Men, says he thinks that the key is to support our boys as they become their authentic selves. “I think the biggest challenge for us is really allowing our boys to show us, say to us … Continue reading Helping Boys Grow Into Healthy Men (w Ted Bunch)


How Shame Harms Boys



What do you do if a teacher shames your son in front of the class?  For many parents, this is not an abstract question. Teachers, coaches, bus drivers and yes, even parents still use shame to shape kids’ behavior. Adults yell at children in front of their peers, berate them for a lack of effort, … Continue reading How Shame Harms Boys


Helping Teens Cope with Anxiety, Depression & More



It’s not easy to talk to boys about anxiety, depression and mental health. And yet, in a world in which 1 in 8 kids has an anxiety disorder and 2-3% of children ages 6-12 have serious depression and suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death for young people ages 15-24, not talking about these … Continue reading Helping Teens Cope with Anxiety, Depression & More


Parent From Love, Not Fear (w Bryan Post)



The secret to parenting success  — & satisfaction — is simple: Parent from love, not fear.  So says Bryan Post, founder of The Post Institute for Family Centered Therapy. Adopted as a child, Post experienced the difficulties that can arise when a child’s needs conflict with a parent’s experience. His adopted sister was born prematurely … Continue reading Parent From Love, Not Fear (w Bryan Post)


Gender Differences, Bragging & Raising World Citizens



It’s time for another listener Q & A! A Boys Alive! FB group member asks: How can I interest a teen boy in becoming a good world citizen? A Twitter follower asks: What do you say to boys who say they’re the best at…whatever the conversation is about. I’ve heard this from multiple 7/8/9 yo … Continue reading Gender Differences, Bragging & Raising World Citizens


Masks We Wear with Ashanti Branch



Our boys often wear metaphorical masks. We all do, in fact. At work, we typically wear our confident, professional faces. At home, we aim for warm, nurturing and competent. But underneath, we may be feeling anger, frustration, sadness or shame. Our “masks” allow us to go about our days and meet our responsibilities without ruffling … Continue reading Masks We Wear with Ashanti Branch


Breaking the Boy Code



The Boy Code. The Man Box. Whatever you want to call it, our boys are constrained by a largely unspoken set of expectations that exert pressure on them to behave and act in certain ways. Jonathon Reed helps boys — and others — understand and question these expectations. His podcast, Breaking the Boy Code, features … Continue reading Breaking the Boy Code


Teaching Boys Social Skills



Boys interact differently than girls do. Sure, some of that is socialization. (A lot of that is probably socialization.) But the fact remains: boys’ interactions on the playground, in school and at home are different than girls’. The way boys greet and play with one another is different than the way girls do so — … Continue reading Teaching Boys Social Skills


Will He Ever Grow Up?!



  When do boys grow up? That question tends to elicit a chuckle; ask it in a group of middle-aged women, and you’re likely to hear someone joke about their not-yet-grown husband. Ask it in a group of men, and well, you’ll hear much the same thing. But to anxious parents, the when do they … Continue reading Will He Ever Grow Up?!