Category Archives: Emotional Development

Masks We Wear with Ashanti Branch



Our boys often wear metaphorical masks. We all do, in fact. At work, we typically wear our confident, professional faces. At home, we aim for warm, nurturing and competent. But underneath, we may be feeling anger, frustration, sadness or shame. Our “masks” allow us to go about our days and meet our responsibilities without ruffling … Continue reading Masks We Wear with Ashanti Branch


Breaking the Boy Code



The Boy Code. The Man Box. Whatever you want to call it, our boys are constrained by a largely unspoken set of expectations that exert pressure on them to behave and act in certain ways. Jonathon Reed helps boys — and others — understand and question these expectations. His podcast, Breaking the Boy Code, features … Continue reading Breaking the Boy Code


Teaching Boys Social Skills



Boys interact differently than girls do. Sure, some of that is socialization. (A lot of that is probably socialization.) But the fact remains: boys’ interactions on the playground, in school and at home are different than girls’. The way boys greet and play with one another is different than the way girls do so — … Continue reading Teaching Boys Social Skills


Will He Ever Grow Up?!



  When do boys grow up? That question tends to elicit a chuckle; ask it in a group of middle-aged women, and you’re likely to hear someone joke about their not-yet-grown husband. Ask it in a group of men, and well, you’ll hear much the same thing. But to anxious parents, the when do they … Continue reading Will He Ever Grow Up?!


How to Listen to Him – So He Will Want to Talk with You



“He just won’t talk to me.” If you’ve ever uttered those words, you are not alone. Nearly every parent of boys has complained and/or worried about their sons’ silence. We know that there’s a lot going on in our boys’ lives and we want to help — but how can we help if they won’t … Continue reading How to Listen to Him – So He Will Want to Talk with You


Rosalind Wiseman on How to Talk with Boys



Rosalind Wiseman’s work is based on the belief that young people’s experiences are important, but often discounted. Adults, she says, frequently give young people advice without listening to them first. Boys often tune out adult’s well-meaning messages because we fail to recognize that they are the subject matter experts of their own lives. However, if … Continue reading Rosalind Wiseman on How to Talk with Boys


150 Being a Stay-at-Home Dad



Meet Stay-at-Home Dad, Homeschooling Dad, and Mankind Project participant and advocate, Mark. Dad of Sam, age 8, husband of Corissa, living in Portland, Oregon, Mark retraces his journey as a boy who didn’t feel listened to by his mom and dad, struggling with his identity as a stay-at-home dad, and his striving to be an … Continue reading 150 Being a Stay-at-Home Dad


148: 14 Ways to Love Your Boys



Love really is what makes the world go around.  At least, it’s what makes the world a better place! On Valentine’s Day, our thoughts typically turn to romantic love (thanks to a hefty assist by Hallmark, restaurants and jewelry companies.) In this special Valentine’s Day episode, we’re focusing on another kind of love: The love … Continue reading 148: 14 Ways to Love Your Boys


134: Rites of Passage



  Traditional societies had many (often elaborate) rites of passage for boys and girls. On the South Pacific island of Vanuatu, boys become men after diving off rickety 40 foot platforms — toward the ground. (You may have seen or heard about this tradition on National Geographic.) In the Sioux culture, young boys were raised … Continue reading 134: Rites of Passage


133: Re-Run – The Good News About Bad Behavior



Enjoy this episode from our archives – it’s too good to miss! AND if you’re intrigued by what you hear, consider joining co-host Janet Allison for her upcoming online class: “5 Steps to Untangle Your Parenting.”  All the deets are here:  http://boysalive.com/untangle   If your kids always do what they’re told, consistently treat others with … Continue reading 133: Re-Run – The Good News About Bad Behavior