104: Anger and Boys

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“By age 9, the default emotion for most boys is anger.” — Michael Gurian

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless in the face of a boy’s anger, whether you’ve got a toddler throwing a temper tantrum or a teenager on a rampage. But learning to respond to boys’ anger with love and patience is one of the best gifts we can give to our guys.

In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss:

  • How the “boy code” subtly encourages anger
  • The biology of anger
  • Techniques parents & teachers can use to manage boys’ angry outburts
  • The link between anger, aggression and violence (SPOILER ALERT: anger doesn’t inevitably lead to violence)

Links we mentioned (and more!) in Episode 104:

Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World, by Rosalind Wiseman

Boy Talk: How You Can Help Your Son Express His Emotions by Mary Polce-Lynch

Tips on Dealing with Anger — From a 7-Year-Old Boy by Jennifer LW Fink

He Is So Angry! by Janet Allison

Teenage Angst, or Something More Serious? by Jennifer LW Fink


CLICK HERE for free access to Janet’s 75-minute audio file – Learning Lab: Boys and Anger with a bonus pdf on “The Boy Code and Anger.”

Because you asked…you can WATCH the uncut version of this podcast on YouTube.