Is mom in control at your house?
We don’t mean “in control” in the dictator sense, or in the mom-is-storming-around-the-house-yelling-at-everyone way. We don’t even mean “in control” to mean “your house is neat and orderly and your children do exactly as you say.”
We mean in control of YOURSELF.
After all, the only thing you can really control are your thoughts and actions.
“The first thing I always say is, if you want to feel in control in your life, you have to give up control,” says Heather Chauvin , a strategic parenting expert and mom of 3 boys, currently ages 7, 10 and 15. “Because when you’re trying to control you children’s behavior, when you’re trying to control and plan with no flexibility and then this happens and your routine is blown up, you will feel out of control.”
So, let go. Figure out where you want to focus your time and energy. Figure out how you want to feel. Then, make choices that reflect those priorities.
It’s OK to insert a pair of ear plugs when you need some peace and quiet. (In fact, Heather recommends investing in a pair of noise-canceling headphones!) You do not need to be available to your children, your partner, your work or your friends 24/7. You too deserve down time and time to work on personal projects — and you will be a better mom if you give yourself that time.
“When you’re able to figure out how to protect yourself — your space, your energy — you’re literally teaching your children how to respect themselves,” Heather says.
In this episode, Jen, Janet & Heather discuss:
- Coping with increased screen time
- Why you should invest in a pair of noise-canceling headphones
- Boundary setting
- Motivating boys
- How you can change the energy in your home — & get your boy to come out of his room
- Dealing with online school
- Letting go of other people’s expectations
- Helping our kids handle anxiety and uncertainty
Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:
heatherchauvin.com –– Heather’s online home
Mom is in Control — Heather’s podcast
Mom is in Control Business podcast –– Heather’s business-oriented podcast
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