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143 How Confidence & Joy Spark Success



“Confidence and joy are to the development of a child as oxygen is to life.”   — from Confidence & Joy: Success Strategies for Kids with Learning Differences If your son struggles — academically, socially, or emotionally — you know how quickly simple struggles can dissolve into despair. A child who feels unsuccessful at school … Continue reading 143 How Confidence & Joy Spark Success


142: Resolutions for People Who Care About Boys



The word resolution means “a firm decision to do or not to do something.” It also means “the action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.” As we head into 2019, let’s consider both definitions of the word. Let’s make some firm decisions to improve our relationships with our boys. Let’s take steps to … Continue reading 142: Resolutions for People Who Care About Boys


141: Best of 2018



As 2018 draws to a close, we reflect back on our first year.  This podcast launched on March 12, 2018. Since then, we’ve recorded 40+ episodes, on everything from tween boy hygiene to how to talk to boys about sex, consent and masculinity in the #MeToo era. We hosted 11 guests, including Warren Farrell (author … Continue reading 141: Best of 2018


138 Holiday Gifts & Guilt



(Talk with Janet & Jen LIVE on ‘OPEN MIC’ – click here for date & ticket information.) ‘Tis the season for gift-giving, overspending & guilt. In today’s consumer culture, there’s intense pressure to show love and care for your family via material things. We give you permission to recognize that pressure and set it aside, … Continue reading 138 Holiday Gifts & Guilt


135: Tween Boys



Some call the tween years a “second toddlerhood.” Like toddlers, tweens are striving for independence and determined to do things on their own. Except when they’d rather not. Some days, they want nothing more than to be little kids again, cuddled in your lap. The mood swings of tween boys catch many parents off guard, … Continue reading 135: Tween Boys


134: Rites of Passage



  Traditional societies had many (often elaborate) rites of passage for boys and girls. On the South Pacific island of Vanuatu, boys become men after diving off rickety 40 foot platforms — toward the ground. (You may have seen or heard about this tradition on National Geographic.) In the Sioux culture, young boys were raised … Continue reading 134: Rites of Passage


133: Re-Run – The Good News About Bad Behavior



Enjoy this episode from our archives – it’s too good to miss! AND if you’re intrigued by what you hear, consider joining co-host Janet Allison for her upcoming online class: “5 Steps to Untangle Your Parenting.”  All the deets are here:  http://boysalive.com/untangle   If your kids always do what they’re told, consistently treat others with … Continue reading 133: Re-Run – The Good News About Bad Behavior


131: Emails & Phone Calls from Teachers



How do you respond to phone calls and emails from teachers about your son’s misbehavior? Excerpts of actual emails I’ve received from my son’s teachers: On Tuesday, Sam was sitting in a chair with his legs on a stool, he was flipping it and turning the stool with his legs and feet. I made eye … Continue reading 131: Emails & Phone Calls from Teachers


129 Grief with Tom Golden



One of our jobs, as parents and educators of boys, is to help them learn how to deal with tough emotions — including grief. As much as we want to, we can’t protect our boys from hurt. Loved ones die. Parents divorce Friends move. Boys fail to achieve important goals, and experience rejection from peers. … Continue reading 129 Grief with Tom Golden


121: Sibling Stress: How to Handle Bickering, Fighting & More



If you have more than one child, you have sibling stress. Bickering! Fighting! Maybe even bullying. Seeing — and hearing — our children torment each other is major source of stress and family conflict. We wonder, Have I failed? Are my children doomed to become jerks? Will they EVER get along? Should I intervene? Or … Continue reading 121: Sibling Stress: How to Handle Bickering, Fighting & More